Do You Feel Like Giving Up?
Do you feel powerless, as though you are stuck in an ongoing cycle of worry and sadness? Are you constantly beating yourself up for things that you said or did, worried that your life is just one step short of falling apart? Perhaps you appear to have it together, but underneath it all, you feel helpless, hopeless and certain that you’re a failure at life. Or maybe you struggle to get moving at all, and you feel guilty for not being able to show up for your family, friends and/or work the way you want to. It might be that you feel lonely, misunderstood, unloved and uncared for, but don’t know where to turn for help. Perhaps you’ve been using drugs, alcohol or food to mitigate sadness, numb out or to feel anything at all. Do you wish you could find a way to feel loved and connected to yourself, your loved ones and the other important people in your life?
Living with depression can be an isolating, helpless and seemingly hopeless experience. You may wake up each morning feeling exhausted, stressed about your to-do list and worried about how you’ll make it through the day. You might be trying hard to understand the source of your unhappiness, but nothing you do offers any real relief. Or maybe you’re putting on your “happy face” and pushing yourself through your daily tasks, but feel little to no satisfaction in anything you do. It might be that you’re constantly engaging in self-critical thoughts and/or self-destructive behaviors, wondering if you’ll ever be able to get anything right. Do you wish you could connect to a sense of hope and feel more confident, relaxed and satisfied in all aspects of your life?
Depression Is Extremely Common In Our Culture
If you’re struggling with any level of depression, you are not alone. Depression affects more than 15 million American adults in any given year, and roughly 20 percent of teens will experience some form of depression before adulthood. Whether caused by biological, environmental or emotional factors, depression symptoms present on a wide spectrum and at varying levels of severity. Some people struggle with depression throughout their lives, while others experience situational depression due to loss, trauma and significant life transitions, such as divorce, a new baby, an empty nest, the blending of families, a move or a career change to name a few. Change can be difficult and bring old trauma to the surface, triggering sudden feelings of depression and powerlessness that can be hard to understand.
We also live in an increasingly busy world, in which self-care often falls by the wayside. In a culture that requires us to keep moving, to respond instantly through cell phones and social media and to be “on” 24/7, it’s easy to become reactive rather than responsive or to feel scattered or stuck. And, with increasing stress concerning finances, family, career and more, it’s not surprising that more and more people are suffering from both depression and anxiety.
The good news is that if you are struggling with depression, you are not alone and there is help and hope. An experienced and compassionate depression therapist can help you break the cycle, connect to a sense of purpose and live with more hope, happiness and overall satisfaction.
Depression Therapy Can Provide You With Support, Skills And A New Path Forward
In depression treatment sessions, you can learn how to really listen to yourself and understand how your brain works. Essentially, we think in images and patterns that are stored as files in the brain. Once these files are created, we no longer have to actively think about what we’re doing. Consider riding a bike, for example. As we learn how to ride a bike, a file is created. As we get better at riding a bike, more information is added to the file until we no longer have to think about how to ride a bike—we just do it. Unfortunately, the brain is not moral and doesn’t discriminate between “good” and “bad” files. Negative patterns of thinking develop and are stored in the brain, often creating really thick files that come up, especially in times of stress or distress, to tell us we can’t handle life.
Thankfully, there are ways to create new files that are positive and supportive of who and how you want to be. In therapy for depression sessions, I can help you get to the root of your automatic thinking by becoming a witness to your own thoughts. We’ll slow everything down so you can really listen to the things you are saying to yourself. In building this awareness, you can also begin to identify triggers to the negative patterns of thinking, challenge the validity of the negative stories you’ve created over time and replace them with more empowering thoughts and behaviors. If necessary, we can also explore family of origin issues and any trauma to identify and resolve root issues.
In depression treatment sessions, I can also teach you breathing, relaxation and mindfulness techniques that you can draw from to ground into the present moment and experience relief. We can also discuss environmental and lifestyle changes that you can make as you work on taking better care of yourself. Together, we can set manageable goals and devise steps you can take to reach them. Sessions are tailored to meet your specific needs, and I won’t ask you to make any changes that you’re not ready for. Rather, I offer you a safe, supportive space in which you can speak about anything and everything and explore what it is that you need to feel empowered and fulfilled in your life.
Life is really all about figuring out who you are, learning what works for you, setting realistic goals and then taking small steps toward happiness. I’ll offer you practical guidance and compassionate support as you ride this out, recognize and reframe the stories created over time and move into a space that feels empowered. Tomorrow is another day, and it is possible to experience relief from depression and create a better life for yourself.
You still may have questions and concerns about treatment for depression…
Does a depression diagnosis mean that I’ll need to go on medication?
Medication has been shown to be very effective in helping to stabilize mood in some people, and many studies show that medication in tandem with therapy is the most effective form of depression treatment. That said, there are also many highly effective forms of treating depression that do not include the use of medication. Essentially, the goal of our work together is to figure out what works specifically for you. The choice to try medication or not is completely yours.
I should be able to get through this on my own—without therapy.
It’s possible that you can get through this without help, and maybe you have in the past. However, if you’re struggling with depression symptoms for the first time or yet again, there may be hidden obstacles that you can’t easily see on your own. With the help of a trained, neutral person who will truly hear you out, you can learn more about yourself and what it is that you need to feel fulfilled. You also don’t need to be in therapy forever. Rather, therapy can give you a valuable head start. We all need a little help sometimes, and I see asking for help as a sign of personal intelligence and strength.
I’ve tried everything and nothing seems to help. How could it be any different this time?
First, it’s important that you don’t give up. There is a path to healing for everyone—you’ve just yet to discover yours. In depression therapy sessions, I’ll provide you with the space to express everything that is upsetting you, even if you don’t believe that there is a solution. I’ll listen to you, support you and walk with you until you discover what it is that does help. You are not alone, and having a trusted guide can make a big difference.
You Can Live A Full, Satisfying Life
If you’re seeking help for depression in Mattituck, NY or the surrounding area, I invite you to call my office at 613-714-2634 for a free consultation. I’m happy to discuss your experience with depression and decide if we’d be a good fit, as well as answer any questions you have about therapy for depression, in-office sessions, online therapy and my practice.